Tag: Timothy Conigrave


Ok, I just need to get this off my chest now.

I have recently become obsessed with a film and the book that inspired it.
‘Holding the Man’

The story of a 15 year relationship.
Timothy Conigrave and John Caleo met during their years at high school in the 70’s.
Timothy was always acutely aware of his sexuality but John wasn’t.
John was a man’s man and it wasn’t until high school, when he met and fell in love with Timothy that he embraced his own sexuality.
The story follows their ups and downs. Their experimentation with other partners during their University years which ultimately led to their HIV status and ultimate deaths in 1992 and 1994 respectively.
How Timothy had to deal with watching John die knowing that he’d probably infected him in the first place.
It’s an absolutely stunning film with amazing performances from Ryan Corr as Timothy and Craig Stott as John.

The memoir is something else!
It is written in a very childlike and naive way. Almost as if Timothy was just writing to get things down before he died. Get his memories in place while he still could as he was battling dementia. This makes it both hilarious because of the verbal diarhoea and heartbreaking becaue of it’s complete honesty.

The book and the film both end with the same line.
Ci vedremo lassu, anjelo….
Which translates to….
I’ll see you up there, angel!!

OMG! even now, as I write those lines, it has me in tears.

It’s an absolutely wonderful film. It’s funny, it’s sad and it sends a message.

As I write this it also occurs to me that the film had an amazing soundtrack.
After all, it takes place predominantly in the 70’s and 80’s
So here is a list of some of the music and songs used in the soundtrack.
Forever and a year by Rufus Wainwright – KILLS ME EVERY TIME –  and if you’ve seen the film, you’ll know why.



So here I am, a bit of a puddle of a mess.

I’ve just finished Tim’s memoir.

The last line of the film is also the last line of the book but as it was in Italian, I never understood what was said although the meaning was very clear.

So after I gathered myself enough to think, I used Google Translate to finally find out what was said.

Ci vedremo lassu, anjelo….

Which translates to….

I’ll see you up there, angel!!

OMG!! Knowing that Tim died just 10 days after writing those words…..
Shit! here I go again. Where’s the tissue.

I can see it now. I’ll be sitting in the Duomo next year in Florence with my Mum and Dad and I’m going to be a complete mess!


So today was not a particularly good day.
After the problem with my knee a few months ago, I’d thought that things were improving.
Physio has discharged me although I continue with the exercises.
My knee had reached a level where I was actually power walking again and really enjoying it.

However, I had a little setback at work on Saturday when I jarred my knee and got shooting pains again. Not to the extent of the original explosion in my knee but enough to make things uncomfortable.

Strong pain relief helped things ease off. My day off yesterday was spent relaxing and taking it easy and as I walked into work this morning things were feeling good.
It did not last and the shooting pain started to catch me at every small turn.

I ended up having to leave work early so I didn’t push it to the point where I was off my feet for another three weeks.
I’m not back into work until Thursday but I think a trip to the GP is now in order to get referred to someone to get it checked out properly.
Considering I never had an X-ray or a scan when the original injury happened, I think that now is the time.

So I spent the rest of the afternoon with my feet up and reading Tim Conigrave’s memoir ‘Holding the Man’
I’ve reached the point where his partner, John is going to die and I don’t think I can handle it, so I’m taking a cowardly break.

A bit of Tumbling was in order and I discovered some new images of Adam on the set of his new film project.

He is currently in Atlanta, Georgia filming ‘Logan Lucky’ with Daniel Craig and Channing Tatum.
I must admit to being a little surprised by the images.
Looks like his character is missing an arm!! But he’s still got his gorgeous hair.

Anyway, it suddenly occurred to me that between now and December 2017 I have ‘potentially’ 5 of Adam’s films to see with the potential of three of them to obtain on DVD.

‘Paterson’ which premiered in Cannes and has a UK release date of 25th November 2016.
Don’t know how wide the release may be and I may end up having to go to London to see it!

‘Silence’ should be seeing inital release in December but as yet there is no date for the UK and again I may have to go to London to see this one.

‘The Man Who Killed Don Quixote’ is in pre-production but Terry Guilliam wants to have it ready for Cannes next year.

Then we have ‘Logan Lucky’ which is currently filming and is set for release in October 2017.

And of course we then have ‘Star Wars Ep VIII’ set for release Dec 2017.
It’s finished filming and is in post production. Expect me to rave about this one.
I can’t wait!!!
Kylo on his way to redemption but I fear for Hux!

Paterson, Silence and The Man Who Killed Don Quixote are the DVD probabilities and in fact in some cases I may only get to see them for the first time on DVD. We’ll just have to wait and see.

Right, time to suck it up and get back to this memoir!


So today has been a relaxing between shifts day but it has been a little depressing!!

Continuing a bit of a recent facination for me, I decided to watch a docufilm called ‘Bridegroom’.

IMDB states….
Shane Bitney Crone’s plans to marry Tom Bridegroom in California after the same-sex marriage law is passed takes a tragic turn when his partner of six years accidentally dies and Tom’s family refuses Shane from attending the funeral.



It is an absolutely heartbreaking documentary about the life of Shane and his subsequent relationship with Tom that came to an abrupt end because of a stupid accident.
The film is made up of photo’s and videos of Shane and Tom and interviews with Shane and friends and Shane’s family.
The way Tom’s family reacted was horrendous and I found myself a blubbering wreck when the film finished.

So what do I do when that’s finished?
I carry on reading Tim Conigrave’s memoir ‘Holding the Man’!!

Tim and John

After falling in love with the film recently, I decided to read the memoir and I was struck by how much I actually have in common with Tim!
Apart from the obvious, I’m not a man and I’m not gay, we share the same taste in films and music and politics.

Something in the book but not in the film was the time Tim spent in Italy with John just before John started sucumbing to AIDS related illneses, specifically Florence and Tuscany, a place that I will be seeing for myself next year when I am there for my Brother’s wedding.
I have now reached the point in the book where they are dealing with the effects of AIDS.

I know the outcome of the memoir. I know that Tim died just 10 days after completing it and yet I am finding it compulsive reading and I just know that I will end up a blubbering wreck yet again.

Why do I do this to myself?!


Time for another Dish of the Week.

Ryan Corr

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He’s an actor I’m sure we are going to see much more of in the future.

He’s only 27 which makes me old enough to be his Mother!! How depressing.
I’ve only actually seen him in 2 things and in both of them he had me sobbing.

He played ‘Art’ in ‘The Water Diviner’ with Russell Crowe.
A relatively small part but pivotal to the whole film.

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Mainly set in the years after the first world war, Russell Crowe plays a father looking for the bodies of his three sons who were lost at Gallipolli.
Turns out, one of them survived, ‘Art’, but he cannot forgive himself for what happened to his brothers and in the scene where you finally find out why he feels that way, I defy you not to cry!!
Ryan Corr is absolutely heartbreaking and pulls off a stunning performance.

His breakthrough film though is ‘Holding the Man’
Indeed he won GQ breakthrough actor of the year in 2015 for this role.
He also won the Australian Film Critics Association Award for Best Actor and the Australian Film Institutes Award for Best Actor for his role in this fim.

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In ‘Holding the Man’ he plays Tim Conigrave.
The Mail Online stated…..

Melbourne-born Ryan takes the leading role in the Australian film adaptation of the 1995 memoir Holding The Man.
Ryan plays the late Timothy Conigrave, the Australian man who penned the novel about his life and long term gay relationship in the seventies.
The best selling book focuses on Timothy’s life partnership with John Caleo, who he met in high school.
It explores the highs and lows of their love, along with the tragic news that both men had tested positive to HIV in the mid-eighties.
Winning a United Nations Human Rights Award the story has previously been adapted for stage, with a film the latest achievement for the publication.

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The film is both funny and absolutely heart crushing!!
A stunning testament to a courageous relationship in a time that wasn’t quite as forgiving as it is now, but we still have a long way to go.
Again, you will need a box of tissues for this one, particularly the last 5 minutes!!

So, after this it would appear that Ryan has been brought onto the Hollywood radar.
He’s done a few shorts and continued with Australian TV but he’s also in a movie due for release later this year Starring Andrew Garfield, Hugo Weaving and Sam Worthington about Army Medic Desmond T. Doss, who during WWII,  refuses to kill people and becomes the first conscientious objector in American history to be awarded the Medal of Honor.
Ryan plays Lt Manville. He’s not in the trailer and I can’t see it being a huge part but it gets his foot in the door for bigger things.

So there you have it.
An actor I’m sure will see huge success in his future.
And very easy on the eyes too!!

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