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mumofthreedevils

Mum of three.
X graphic designer turned mum. When the need to go back out to work arrived, I became a Clinical Support Worker completely by accident. I was a support worker for 9 years and was actually awarded Clinical Support Worker of the Year 2011 at my trust.
I have just completed a 2 year University course as a Trainee Nursing Associate and now I am one of the countries first registered Nurse Associates. I am also a Paediatric based Nurse Associate which makes me quite rare. I have been married for 25 years.

UNEXPECTED

So, today did not go quite as expected!

I had planned to have a complete day off today.
Doing on/off/on/off/on shifts in a week, can take it out of you a little bit.
I hadn’t slept very well the previous night either, so I was planning to just put my feet up and watch a few movies.

However…..

I received a phone call from my Dad just before 10am to say that Mum hadn’t been too well over night.
Mum and Dad were supposed to be attending the funeral of an old friend and neighbour, Terry, and Mum wasn’t feeling up to it, so Dad asked if I would like to go with him instead.

I couldn’t say no.
With current COVID restrictions, I didn’t want to leave a space that could have been filled by someone else.
I’ve also known Terry for most of my life. His daughter, Kirsty, was born the same year as my brother and we literally grew up together. I actually felt quite honoured to be part of it.

Me and my Dad were the only ‘friends’ with everyone else being related to Terry in some way.
We initially felt a little bit out of place but that soon changed at the wake.
As we sat at a table with a few other family members, with my Dad being the only gentleman in the group, the conversations and stories started to flow with the alcohol and we ended up having quite a laugh!!

Plans have been made to meet up with Kirsty occasionally in our local when they can open up again and what should have been a quite sombre day, ended up being quite reflective and uplifting.
An old, long neglected friendship may have just had a bit of a re-boot.

BLOOD BOILING

It’s heart breaking to see the situation in India at the moment.
Record breaking COVID 19 deaths.
People begging for oxygen because hospitals are running out.
I fully get why other countries are doing what they can to help.

HOWEVER…….

What makes my blood boil is the fact that there has been no lockdowns, the government insists on pushing ahead with elections, religious festivals have been allowed to go ahead, there has been no consideration to the Pandemic in any way shape or form.
What makes my blood boil even more is the total disregard and lack of priority by the Indian Government for the welfare of their people.
This country has Nuclear Warships and a space programme!! Where is the funding for their people to help out in a crisis? Why are they not postponing elections and enforcing lockdowns to try and get COVID under some control?

The whole Government should be held to account by the rest of the world….. once the rest of the world has helped to dig them out of their hole!!

OSCARS

I know, I know…. where has my usual blogging about Oscars buzz been this year?

Quite frankly, I haven’t been buzzed by it this year and can honestly say that I’ve only actually seen one of the nominated movies. As a consequence, I had no thoughts on who or what should win.

COVID has meant that it’s been a very lean year for cinema going and, since March 24th 2020 until April 27th 2021, I have only seen one movie in the cinema.
Seeing movies on a streaming service is just not the same, so the last year has mainly consisted of old films and looking forward to the plethora of films due in the cinema, and in some cases, over due, later this year.

The Oscars this year was also hit with indifference as the number of people who watched the ceremony dropped a staggering 58% to less than 10 million.

The ceremony itself took place in a total of 20 locations to allow for social distancing and reduce travelling amongst the nominees and the audience capacity was limited to 170 people, with attendees being rotated in and out throughout the show. As a whole, the show received mainly negative reviews.

Even with these restrictions, stars still made a splash on the red carpet.

For the most part, the women’s dresses were stunning and I think Amanda Seyfried in her stunning red Armani won the night for me.

But there were also some flops in my opinion. I’m sorry, don’t judge me but what was Laura Dern thinking and Viola Davis looks like a paper lantern !!

Even the men were stepping up a gear this year.

But unfortunately there is always a dud amongst the men too, and the Oscars musical director, Questlove, showed just how to fuck up a stylish black suit that should have been impossible to fuck up!

Anyway, that’s it for this year!
I’ll eventually get around to watching some of the nominees/winners and ‘hopefully’ I’ll be a little more enthusiastic next year.
At least there should be some Adam Driver movies to gush about next year. Two haven’t been release yet and there is already talk about Oscar nominations. Only time will tell.

DON’T JUMP THE GUN!!

I know it’s been a shit past year and people are really looking forward to relaxation of the Covid rules, I’ve already ventured out to a lovely evening at a pub and I’m looking forward to many more over the summer, but I’m asking you all not to jump the gun!

I keep seeing people showing that they have had their second vaccine which is BRILLIANT!!
I know that they are having a bit of a giggle when they joke about being able to ‘do whatever they want now right?!’, but, the fact of the matter is, that the vaccine is protecting you and helping to protect vulnerable people and people who can’t be vaccinated and it’s helping us get back to some kind of normality, but you STILL need to be careful. You can still carry it and pass it on without realising.

COVID is not going anywhere soon. We’re just getting it under control, which means you will STILL need to wash your hands more often, WEAR you masks in public spaces (that means over you nose too!), social distance as much as possible and follow all the guidelines when you go out to pubs and restaurants.

Please DO NOT assume that because the restrictions are being lifted we can go back to how it was before.
We are going to need to wear our masks for at least another year or two!!

If you’re an anti-vaxxer. Just don’t even try to argue your point with me.
I totally understand that there are people who CAN’T be vaccinated due to health conditions or allergies and it’s these people who are being protected by EVERYONE else getting the vaccine!!
If you simply don’t agree with it or have some stupid idea that ‘it’s all a conspiracy’ to get us chipped, then you can fuck right off!! You are quite simply a moron and ‘hey’ survival of the fittest….and smartest. You will get what’s coming to you.

MIXED WEEK

It’s been a bit of a mixed week.

The garden has been coming along nicely.
I got the new troughs planted and dug out some old pots to freshen up with new shrubs.
I’ve tried to get shrubs that will give all year round greenery but give plenty of flower colour in the summer to try and attract the bees and butterflies.
Popped some new lights up and now we just need some good weather to be able to enjoy it.

Had my old friend Mick round for another catch up on Weds. It’s nice to get back to our weekly chats, even if it is in the garden for now. The patio area is quite sheltered and with the early morning sun, it gets quite warm.
It’s just not good for the diet. With the bakers just over the road, amazing fresh doughnuts and giant iced finger buns have become a bit of a tradition!!

Work hasn’t been too bad recently.
We are now seeing the return of our elective surgeries and the ward hasn’t been crazy busy.
However, this week I was supposed to work Tues, Thurs and Fri.
Tues went without a hitch and my day off on Weds was nice and chillaxing, however, when I woke up on Thurs I had developed a streaming cold!
My nose felt like someone had turned a tap on and I was sneezing all day which made my eyes watery and puffy.
Work was not great that day. The ward itself was OK, I just felt like poo and I looked like it too. Continuously having to blow my nose made it very sore and I looked like Rudolph the Reindeer. I was actually quite thankful for the mask!!
However, sneezing into that mask was not pretty!
I ended up leaving the ward a couple of hours early and had to say that I wouldn’t be in on Friday.

Explain to me just HOW…. you can spend all day at work in a mask, go nowhere on your day off and STILL catch a cold?

Thursday wasn’t a total loss though as my daughter had her 20 week scan to confirm that the pregnancy was progressing well and that the baby was looking healthy. She also found out that she is expecting a boy!
I know that she and Jordan were hoping for a girl because Jordan already has two little boys, but they are both happy and now they can really start to plan things.
They have said that this will be the only baby in their relationship…… but…… I think the thought of adding a little girl into the mix might persuade them to have another go at some point. We’ll see.

So, to today.
The nose has just about stopped running. It’s not looking as red as it did on Thurs but it’s now so dry and crispy around the edges it’s going to start peeling!! Lovely!
I’m going out to the pub for the first time in Months tomorrow evening and I’m going to look ravishing…. NOT!

Anyway, the BIG news for the day is that in just under 2 hours time, I will be getting my hair cut!!
HALLELLUJAH!
I’ve been desperate for a cut for at least the last 6 weeks!
It’s longer at the end of this lockdown than it was the first one!

Urgh! Please excuse the miserable face. My eyes are still really puffy and I’m just feeling blurgh…….. and old TBH!
Hopefully a haircut and a bit of sun will change that.

Anyway, let’s get to the end of this blog.
What haven’t I mentioned yet?…………. Oh yes, Adam!
Photos have continued to stream out of Italy as Adam and Lady Gaga continue to film for ‘House of Gucci’
It’s been a busy week and the scene that every Adam Driver fan has been dreading was filmed this week too.
The assassination of Maurizio Gucci was filmed and appeared to be quite a tough day for Adam. He is very much a method actor and likes to get into character and stay in character while on set.

Anyway, here are a selection of photos from this week and quite frankly, some of them should be illegal because Adam looks AMAZING!

Right! The sun is shining. I have a few chores to do and I need to shake off the last of this cold.
Have a fabulous weekend whatever you’re doing.

WORK DONE, FEET UP

Three days off and plenty of time to relax.

I started a little DIY project yesterday and made a planter trough for the patio and had a visit from a friend I haven’t seen in months.

Today I had a busy morning with a visit from a company cleaning our gutters and fixing our facia that got damaged in recent high winds, followed by a delivery of some more garden chairs and a few bags of compost for the trough. I managed to get the trough filled and ready for planting and the grass cut before the rain started.

Patio coming along nicely

The patio is really beginning to take shape. It just needs some plants. The sweetpeas are just sprouting and not ready for the trough yet but I may take a trip to the local farm shop tomorrow to see if they have some bedding plants to start with….. if it’s not raining!

So now it’s time to put the feet up and I’m channel hopping. I have settled on a film that I absolutely love and can never click past.

We Bought a Zoo is based on a true story and although it is set in the US and stars Matt Damon and Scarlett Johansson, the real Zoo is actually here in the UK! It’s a lovely film and a favourite ‘go to’ when I’m just chillaxing.

What do I watch later though? I don’t really want to get hooked on a series and there’s not much in the way of new movies at the moment. I’ve watched Godzilla vs Kong, Cherry, WW1984 and Chaos Walking but I really begrudge paying 10 – 15 pounds for a 2 day rental when we already pay for Netflix and Prime.

Ah well, not long now and the Cinemas will be open again. Can’t wait!!

IT’S GOING TO BE A GOOD DAY

Anyone who reads my blog regularly will know that I’m not a religious person, but I’m not ignorant enough to realise that today is a pretty special day for a lot of people.
I hope that, whatever your belief, you have a wonderful day.

I plan to do just that.
I am going to see my eldest daughter, Murron, for the first time in months!
She is cooking us a roast dinner and I am going to be making Rice Krispie chocolate nests with her partners two little boys.
My daughter is also 18 weeks pregnant, so I’m going to see how the ‘bump’ is progressing.
The sun is already shining so it will hopefully warm up a little this afternoon because this morning was freezing!! There was ice on the car when I took my youngest to work.

Anyway, it’s a nice long weekend for a change.
Working as a nurse doesn’t always guarantee you bank holidays off, but my rota has fallen quite nicely over the next week. I’ve got three days off over this weekend, then two days on before another 3 days off, which is good, because I have a little project on the go in the back garden.

Yesterday was a chill out day as I waited for delivery of some garden furniture.
I’ve been wanting a new table and chairs for a while but was always horrified at the cost.
With the global decline in the use of plastic, getting hold of the old style cheaper garden tables and chairs is now gone.
In fact, getting plastic garden chairs is now getting quite expensive.
However, as I trawled the internet for ideas, I came across a local company who supplies wooden pub style garden benches, tables, chairs and bars at really good prices!
I ordered an 8 seater bench a few weeks ago and it arrived yesterday.
Actually really happy with it. It’s really sturdy and was an incredible price!

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They do benches like this that will seat up to 12! They do separate tables and chairs and they also make bespoke bars to order, so if you want something a little different, give them a go.
www.go2darlows.co.uk Nice friendly service too!

I also decided to put my feet up and watch a new film yesterday too.
A movie that should have been released in the cinema, but due to COVID was release on streaming services for a price.
It’s a film daughter number 2 wanted to watch so once the table had arrived, we put our feet up and watched Godzilla vs Kong.

Mmm. It was OK. I did get a little bit snoozy. I found it a little bit ‘if you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all’.
Not saying it was bad, it just lacked a little originality in my mind.
Marjorie enjoyed it anyway.

Tomorrow I plan to crack on with my plan in the garden and hopefully my friend Debbie will be round to sit in the garden for a chat for a while. Haven’t seen her in ages either!

Anyway, better get ready to go to Murron’s.
Have a wonderful weekend whatever your plans are.

STILL WORTH IT

OK, time to talk vaccines again.

Way back on Saturday 9th January, I had my first Covid vaccination.
I blogged briefly back then that “I got quite achy around my shoulders and neck late last night (Saturday) and I’m still a little achy this morning, but other than that, I’m absolutely fine.”

I had my second Covid vaccination this Saturday at lunchtime and this one is a totally different ball game!
I was fine on Saturday. I couldn’t even feel where the vaccination had gone into my arm.
Unlike last time, I didn’t notice any side effect at all.
When I woke up Sunday, I thought everything was fine and came to the conclusion that I simply wasn’t going to have any after effect this time around…….

However……….

At around 6pm Sunday evening, I started to feel a little achy across my shoulders.
So it would appear the reaction was a little delayed. I thought that it probably wouldn’t be any worse than the last mild reaction in January.
How wrong I was!!!

By 10pm I was really sore.
My neck, my shoulders and all the way down my back was so sore I just didn’t want to move.
The lymph nodes in my arm pits swelled and were sore.
My head started pounding.
My temperature started creeping and was a mild 37.9 when I decided to go to bed.
This is when I started to experience small needle stick like sensations in my legs.

There was just no getting to sleep.
At half past midnight I called into work and said I wouldn’t be in today and then I tried to get back to sleep.
It didn’t work and by 3am my temperature was 38.3 and as I had taken a dose of Paracetamol and Ibuprofen just a couple of hours earlier, chances are it was probably actually a bit higher.

It was a very restless night.
Today I am absolutely shattered.
The temperature appears to have settled so far.
My head is still pounding but the lymph nodes in my arm pits have settled down.
My back, neck and shoulders are still sore but have not got any worse and I haven’t had any of the needle stick like sensations in my legs yet today!

I have never been knocked sideways by a vaccination like this before.

With all that being said, I still feel like it was absolutely worth it.
A day or two of feeling rubbish to have a summer of relative freedom and help the country get back on it’s feet and to some normality, is not that big a price to pay.

Today I think I will be cat napping on the sofa, trying to catch up on sleep and shaking off the after effects of this jab.

FALLING APART

In January 2018 I added an actor to my list of ‘Dish of the Weeks’
He was ‘Dish of the Week #74’ and this entry can be read HERE.

Armie Hammer.
He is a strikingly beautiful man who is 6’5 with amazing blue eyes and has been in a couple of my favourite films, namely ‘Mine’, the stunning ‘Call Me By Your Name’ and ‘On the Basis of Sex’.

However, over the last year I have become increasingly disheartened with news reports and allegations made against him.
At first I thought that maybe these were just being made by opportunistic women, but the more I heard, the more I was becoming uncertain.

Things started to go wrong for Armie back in 2020 when he and his wife of 10 years, divorced. What I’m asking myself now is, did she know something about what was to happen next?

In January this year, several women made allegations of abuse they said they had experienced during relationships with Armie and a former girlfriend accused Armie of being emotionally manipulative and abusive during their relationship in 2020, and even alleged he said he wanted to eat her flesh, and would suck or lick her wounds if she had a little cut on her hand. Another ex-girlfriend claimed Armie made a serious suggestion that she have her lower ribs surgically removed so he could eat them.
An attorney for Hammer stated, “These assertions about Mr. Hammer are patently untrue. Any interactions with this person, or any partner of his, were completely consensual in that they were fully discussed, agreed upon, and mutually participatory.” which in itself is a little worrying because it doesn’t deny he actually did any of this or made the suggestion, only that it was all consensual!!

It started to snowball from there as in the same month, an anonymous Instagram account released screenshots that claimed to show Armie’s Instagram direct messages to various women between 2016 and 2020, describing sexual fantasies including violence, rape, and cannibalism. 
Although Armie denied these messages, he started to drop out of commitments for a film and a couple of TV shows.

On February 5, Armie was dropped by his talent agency ‘Endeavour’ and it was also reported that his publicist would no longer represent him.
This just does not happen unless there is good evidence to support all the allegations.

This brings me onto the latest piece of news, and one which is probably the nail in Armie’s coffin.
On the 18th March, the woman who initially came forward with abuse allegations accused Hammer of violently raping her in April 2017 and the Los Angeles Police Department subsequently confirmed that he was under investigation for sexual assault.

Armie is obviously still denying all allegations and I am still clinging to the hope that he is innocent and just the victim of a jealous woman, but unfortunately, the more I hear, the more I am becoming unsure.

‘Innocent until proven guilty’.
I am now waiting with baited breath.
I will cling to my hope until the end, however, if the allegations are true then unfortunately he deserves whatever he gets and it will certainly be the end of his career.

If he is proved innocent?
I feel sorry for him if he is proved innocent because there will be a lot of repair work to do.

It’s all a waiting game now.